My sign is the eagle
My life is love
My path is freedom
My home is above
As this light reach us through the clouds Jesus is able to reach us wherever we are in need of it. Heaven is calling and will help us through suffer and pain in so many ways, sometimes it can be a person giving you a smile and make your day brighter. We tend to forget all this small things that can mean so much for us.
In every way
Gods light will reach us
Gods love will teach us
That no matter how it seems
We are always carried
Always cared for
In the hands of our Father
I want to wish you a happy and loving Valentines Day with todays article. Make this day a day to remember for yourself and your loved ones. A day to honour the love inside us by showing eachother how much we care.
Ah, February! Our minds start turning to thoughts of Valentine’s Day.In the middle of winter, romance is suddenly in vogue. The stores are filled with cards, candy, jewelry, and any number of other products touting the opportunity to show your love how you feel.
Are we being set up? Have we bought into the idea of romance so much that we are literally destroying our relationships with expectations? I think we are. In fact, I think we have made a false idol of romance at the expense of true love. We have confused infatuation and erotic love with deep, abiding love that leads to successful marriages.
Let me be clear. I have nothing against romance and romantic gestures. But we have made this the lead, not the result of love. We want to be awash in loving feelings and attraction for our partner. Then we expect those feelings to be the cement, the glue that keeps us together. Hogwash!
I just checked my email. In the last month, I have received 104 pleas for help from people hearing this statement from their spouse, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” The translation is this: “I have a feeling of care for you, but I don’t feel erotic emotions toward you.” The problem is that this statement is a lie on the front end (“I love you”) and a misunderstanding on the back end (“but I’m not in love with you”).
The lie, I’ll get to in a moment. The misunderstanding is this: being “in love” with someone is based on the nurturing of a relationship. It is not some emotion that is at the whims of Cupid shooting an arrow. Too often I hear, “I can’t help how I feel.” True, but people can choose how they act. And that is really the crux of the matter.
Love has been confused in our culture. The ancient Greeks were much more clear. They used three words to talk about love: Eros, Phileo, and Agape. Eros was about attraction (erotic love). Phileo was about friendship. And Agape was about commitment. Our society has segregated these three areas. Interestingly, we all want commitment and acceptance from our lover/spouse (Agape love), but too often want to feel attraction (Eros love) toward our spouse.
In other words, we want that attractive, successful, romantic, loving person to accept us, mistakes, shortcomings, failures, and all. We want what we have a hard time offering.
So what is the lie? Love is a commitment. It is an action verb, based on being loving and doing loving actions toward the other person. It is based on making a choice to love the other. Not for a moment, but for a lifetime.
Brain scans show that people who are “in love” (caught up in the infatuation) have very similar patterns to those who are mentally ill. So being “madly in love” is not just a figure of speech. It is a physical reality.
The problem is that this is unsustainable. The love of infatuation has to temper into a choice to being loving toward another person. I love someone because I choose to act lovingly, not because of the constance of a feeling. That moves the whole possibility from being at the whims of Cupid to having a conscious choice over how I participate in a relationship.
Let me be clear here: I am not opposed to visits of Eros. In fact, I think this is a feeling that is important and necessary in a long-term marriage. But I believe the emotion emerges from acting in loving ways. In other words, when I make romance primary, I am lost when it is gone. When I make love a verb, and action I can choose, the romantic feelings will naturally emerge.
Valentine’s Day is a threat to your relationship when you make the romantic feelings the goal. To paraphrase a commercial: card, $3.50; candy, $20.00; flowers, $50.00. Acting lovingly toward your spouse: Priceless (and free!). When Valentine’s Day rolls around, make it an opportunity to show your love, not a day to judge your erotic feelings.
To good to be true as some say but i dont agree on that. If you have a special relationship with love and affection it is to good to not be true, so hold on to what you have and dont make any hasty decisions based on rumors or a bad mood. Every relation goes through changes as a natural part of life and it dont have to make things worse, instead could the both of you could grow stronger together as you support and understand eachother within the difficulties of life that happens sometimes.
It is a sad but true fact of life that not all great things last forever. This saying is especially true when it comes to relationships.
Human interaction is transactional, meaning that it changes over time. When people are around each other more often, they get to know more about each other and the feelings they have may eventually change.
Relationships can feel like a roller coaster at times, constantly experiencing ups and downs. But at times it can be hard to tell if a down is ever going to make its way back up.
It is undoubtedly difficult to differentiate between momentary turbulence in a relationship and a true end. Men can be incredibly hard to read at times, leaving women paranoid that they are planning to leave them.
There are a few things men commonly do before ending a relationship that women can keep their eyes peeled for.
1. An Increase in Irritability and Arguing
It isn’t the end of the world when you have an argument with your companion. As a matter of fact, being open about conflicts of interests is a perfectly healthy part of a functional relationship.
But if your partner is stepping beyond the line of moderation when it comes to arguing, it may be a sign that he is trying to pry his way out of a relationship.
Does he seem more irritable and easily annoyed at small things? Does he start pointless arguments that seem to just pop up out of nowhere? Sometimes when men are looking to end a relationship they want to confirm that it is going nowhere.
They may feel that if the relationship has frequent arguing it will be easier to walk away from. Because of this, it is common for people to subconsciously start arguments and create tension.
2. More Distance Between the Two of You
Every relationship requires time away from each other. It is unhealthy to constantly be around one another, which will most often lead to people getting sick of their partner. If you realize that your partner is becoming increasingly distant however, it may be a red flag for your relationship. If he is interacting less with you and seems to avoid contact it could mean that he is preparing for a breakup.
This is even worse than an increase in arguing because it is much harder to notice. A lot of people who have thoughts of breaking up will try to withdraw themselves emotionally from their partner in an effort to make it easier for them.
They think they can soften the blow of a breakup by slowly prying themselves from the bond. One good way to confirm this is to reflect on the intimacy level of your relationship, which most often is the first area that suffers.
3. Different Behavior Around Other Women
When men think about leaving relationships, they usually look ahead and try to prepare themselves. If they have been in a relationship for quite some time their flirting skills may have significantly decreased. This is by no means an excuse to be paranoid and jealous of every woman, but you should stay mindful of the way he interacts with them.
If he is much friendlier and forming new bonds with females, he could be preparing himself for the single life. If he is treating other women with more attention and optimism than he is to you, try talking to him about it before making any accusations.
It is important to be careful when doing this since paranoia can easily cloud one’s judgement.
When a breakup comes from out of the blue it can be absolutely devastating. Both men and women are complicated to read at the end of a relationship. If you are skeptical of their interests, the best thing you can do is sit down and talk to them about it.
There is no point in continuing a relationship when one person wants out. On the flip side, you could find out that it is just a rough spot and you were over-thinking it. Just remember that communication is key when it comes to saving relationships. One more thing to consider is a professional resource avaliable online for helping you to make up instead of break up or mend a broken heart. Read more about by clicking the link below.
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