Month: October 2013
Do All Cheating Men Leave?
The topic of todays article Do All Cheating Men Leave? is of great importance. How to handle men/women cheating is not easy but if the bounds between you are strong its easier to forget and forgive. I hope you will get help from reading this:
When your husband cheats, it does a real number on your self-esteem. Even worse, it undermines your faith in your husband and the love he has for you. That probably wasn’t his intention when he made the decision to cheat. It’s just another byproduct of the act. But, does his cheating mean he’s actually thinking about leaving? The good news is probably not. In fact, leaving has probably never even crossed his mind.
Here are a few of the reasons why leaving is rarely the end game when men cheat.
If he Wanted to Leave he Would Have Left Before he Cheated
Seriously, if that was his ultimate goal, he doesn’t need to go through the act of cheating and the emotional fallout that comes along as a result. Chances are he never thought he would get caught. Quite often he’s riddled with guilt in the aftermath and has no intention of cheating again. Sometimes it’s a relationship on the side though. Not one he wants instead of his relationship with you, but one that he enjoys in addition to the one he has with you.
It’s his way of having his cake and having another one on the side. The one on the side is nice for brief periods of time, but not one worth risking his family and life at home in order to have full time.
He’s Probably Not Thinking about You at All
Truthfully speaking, if he WAS thinking about you, he probably wouldn’t have cheated in the first place. Thinking isn’t high on the priority list when cheating takes place. For men, it goes back to primitive man when populating the planet was the genetic directive. This was back in the day when men had many wives and mortality rates were high for women, infants, and children.
That doesn’t excuse his bad behavior. It’s just trying to give you a little bit of insight into what’s going on in his mind when the cheating takes place (not much of anything). The good news is that he isn’t trying to hurt you, break your heart, or leave you behind.
Despite what you’ve heard about cheating and working things out, it is a difficult thing for most marriages to recover from. Your reaction is just as important as him making a conscious and dedicated to decision to do whatever it takes to restore the broken trust in the relationship. Once you understand that it isn’t about you at all, you can begin to rebuild and redefine your marriage. Only then, can you move forward and hope to save your marriage in the long run — something both of you probably want to do.
Thanks for reading and i hope you will begin to rebuild your trust and love for eachother in the best way possible.
Dick Scott Admin
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How to Make Him Pay Attention to You Now
Getting his attention used to be easy. All you had to do was walk into the room – any room – and you had his undivided attention. Add a little wiggle to his walk, toss your hair over your shoulder, and crook your little finger and he’d come running fast. Lately, the only thing that gets that much love from him is the television remote. You’re starting to feel a little bit left out and worn down.
What if I told you that there is something you can do RIGHT NOW that will get his attention – in a good way?
It’s easier than you think and you don’t have to walk around the house wearing nothing more than six-inch stilettos to get it.
Flirt with Him
How long has it been since you flirted with your guy? First of all, it WILL get his attention. He’ll be more than a little surprise and quite a bit turned on.
Now the downside is that he may instantly become suspicious. If that’s the case, don’t let it get you down. After all, you haven’t done it in a while.
The problem with relationships, is that no matter how much we love each other, after a while we stop trying quite as hard. We become a little bit complacent. Bringing back the flirting lets him know that you’re willing to try a little harder.
He’ll probably like it a lot more than he’ll ever let on.
Take it a little beyond hair tosses and batted eyelashes though. Let him know how big, strong, and handsome you think he is (of course you’ll want to find ways to say it that don’t leave you sounding like Betty Boop — unless that’s the kind of thing your guy likes).
This is all about him. You want to remind him that he’s the only man for you. Flirting, sends the signal to him that you think he’s still worth trying for – no matter how long you’ve been together.
Want to kick things up a notch? Touch him. Men express and experience love in a different way than women. It doesn’t have to be sexual touching, though that certainly doesn’t hurt your odds of getting his attention. But, he likes to be touched.
Rub his shoulders. Scratch his back. Hold his hands. Reach out and touch him and see what an instant response that gets from him.
We live in a day and time when attention is easily divided. Bringing a little bit of flirting and a whole lot of touching back into the relationship is the fastest way you have at your disposal to get his attention – in a very good way.
Todays article is right on the spot; in todays tcchnologic society its easy to forget about whats really important in life, and thats is personal meetings and personal touch. In a relationship its most crucial to see and confirm each other in order to have a sustainable and lasting relation. I really hope that this article will help you in the right direction and i wish you a great day wherever you are!
Dick Scott/Admin How To Get Lover Back
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