Intimacy Challenge – Are You Too Tired to Tango?

 

I often wonder how it has become this way in our society as described in todays article Intimacy Challenge – Are You Too Tired to Tango?. It seems like the more technology we are surrounded with that should save time for us the less time we have?! Media is also taking a lot of our attention from our “real” life nearby. It seems like the rat race is the only way to go and the right way to live but i think many people are looking for something else in life then a fancy car and a lot of money. Money that cant buy love, hapiness and friends. Todays introduction may seems like  philosophy but i do think we are many who think of such issues; how to have more time for our family and beloved ones.

With Love

 

It’s become such a huge problem across the nation that it’s been addressed on the Dr. Oz show and in countless marriage counseling sessions in between. American couples are exhausted to the point they don’t even have time to enjoy intimate relations between man and wife. And it’s destroying romance in America — not to mention taking a huge toll on marriages. If your marriage is suffering from a drought of human contact, the good news is that it isn’t beyond hope. There are small moves you can start making today that will help you turn your marriage around and find the energy to put on your dancing shoes.

Create a Sleep Schedule in Your Home

Everyone needs a sleep schedule. The key is to be consistent with the sleep schedule – even on the weekend when many people attempt to make up for the sleep deprivation they’ve suffered during the week. Getting everyone — husband, wife, children, and pets on a similar schedule can eliminate the groggy run down feeling that overwhelms just before calling it a night in the evening. It can also help you keep better track of how much sleep you’re actually getting.

Reprioritize and Learn to Delegate

This is especially difficult for women who like to feel they can do it all. The truth of the matter is that it’s not all getting done. Things are falling through the cracks and you really don’t want your marriage to be that thing that is falling. Ask for help and learn to accept help as it comes. It’s not going to be perfect when someone else does it – but that’s OK. The other thing to remember is that you need to watch your priorities. If everything and everyone else is coming before your happy home life then something’s gotta go. It’s not fair to you, your husband, or your marriage to keep things going as they are.

Schedule Weekly Intimate Moments

It may feel a little strained at first – even a little awkward. But, the odds are good that won’t last long. In fact, many couples find that after a couple of weeks of “penciling it in” the spontaneity begins to retune – and the fun. More importantly, the simple process of physical intimacy returns life to your marriage.

Yes, there is a drought going on in homes across America. Your home does not have to be one of the unhappy homes it’s happening in if you follow these great tips.

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Marriage: Learning To Love

Todays article Marriage:  Learning To Love  is essential to any relationship based on love. I think about the words from the bible: Luke 6:38 Give, and it shall be given unto you. Thats particularly true when it comes to love, it is so easy to expect a lot of things but the best way is to give. When you love somebody you will feel a will to give and do the best for that person so it kind of come naturally. The problem starts when we tend to focus to much on our selves and what we want. Every day and in every way there are things to learn and grow from so i hope this article will be your lesson for today;)

Light and Love

My daughter was recently in her school’s performance of Fiddler On TheRoof. She was one of the daughters. If you don’t know the story, it focuses on the changing culture of marriage, from one where the marriage is arrainged by family and community to one based on mutual attraction.

In one of the songs, the main character asks his wife if she loves him. She replies that for 25 years, she has shared his bed, made his meals, tended his house, raised his children — so what kind of question is that? The point is that in their relationship, love wasn’t even a question or consideration. But after some back-and-forth, they decide that, indeed, they love each other.

This led me to think about what I know about marriage. And here is what I think about the question of love and marriage: we fall in love to get together, then spend the rest of our lives learning to love the other.

You see, the initial attraction is really about “I.” “I” feel a certain way, so I know I am “in love.” But that part of the relationship is driven by my need to feel that way, my need to be with the other person, my need to have my needs met. My needs are fueled by my desire to feel the intense emotion of “being in love.”

But in reality, love is a verb, something I do for the other. So, it takes the rest of my life to learn how to attend to my spouse’s needs. From my desire to be with my spouse comes my desire to meet my spouse’s love needs.

We are “fooled” into commitment by the overwhelming feeling of attraction, and then we have to put forth effort to create a sustained relationship. I say “fooled” because our culture has us believing that this love is the foundation of a relationship. It is not. It is merely a temporary starting point. It is not the destination. It is just a part of the journey to a lifetime relationship.

Those intense feelings will calm over time. The overwhelming need to be with someone that marks the infatuation portion of a relationship is not sustainable on its own. It’s like placing a flame in a bottle. Eventually, the flame will burn all the oxygen in the bottle and be extinguished.

So, there has to be some “fueling of the fire.” This is “love,” the verb. When I act in loving ways, I fuel the fire and keep it burning. If I stop tending to the other’s needs because I don’t feel that infatuation, the relationship will slowly (or not so slowly) die away.

When we continue to believe that “love” (infatuation) is the heart of a relationship, when that feeling is gone, we believe we are no longer in love. That is not the case; we have just failed to fuel the fire.

Reality TV has proven that any two people, given the right circumstances and settings, can fall into love (chemistry of infatuation). But story after story shows that it is harder to make the switch to “true love” that comes from action. Choose action, and don’t be fooled by chemistry.

By acting on love, by making love a verb and not an emotion, we keep the emotional fire stoked. And that is the great irony: if we depend on the feeling of being in love to keep us together, it will fail. But if we set that aside and focus on being loving, the feeling of being in love is sustained. Mature love is a verb, not an emotion.

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How To Tell If Youre Ready To Move In Together

 

How To Tell If Youre Ready To Move In Together is a good check list for you who are about to take the final step in moving in together. It is kind of romantic to plan a houshold together but it could also be a little frightening. When we live together on a daily basis we will learn to know much more about eachother and our habits. That should not be a problem but if you have lived alone for a long time it may need some effort to adjust yourself to another person. Naturally there will be some different opinions about things but everything will work out just fine when there is love in the air!

Best Wishes for You

Dick Scott

One of the trickiest things in a relationship is knowing when it’s time to move in together. You may wonder if there’s a cap on how long you should date before approaching this huge step. There are other things involved such as his temperament as well as yours and the question of whether or not they’ll mesh well together under the same roof. Yes, it seems that there are several variables to consider when it comes to making that all important decision of moving in together.

It used to be in many years past that moving in with someone without benefit of marriage was considered to be a mortal sin. With religion less a part of things now and practicality more involved, more and more couples are choosing to live together before deciding to marry. It’s not unusual at all for many couples to cohabitate for a while and then decide they’re not meant to be together. It’s definitely easier to dissolve a live in relationship than it is a legal one.

However, if you’re trying to decide if it’s time to move in with someone that you’re romantically involved with; there are a few ways to tell if the time is right or not. For one thing, you’re rarely apart except for jobs or other necessary events. He’s either at your house or you’re at his. In fact, both of you have started keeping personal items such as tooth brushes, razors and extra clothes at each other’s homes. It’s obvious that a couple like this doesn’t need the extra space of maintaining separate residences.

Another thing that may help you know if you’re ready to live with someone or not is the distance between your two homes. If there’s a decent amount of miles to drive to see each other, you’ll probably find that weekends are spent at one or the other’s residence because it’s too far to drive back and forth in one day. Then, you start to miss each other through the week because you only have phone and/or computer contact until the next weekend arrives.

Of course, there are the feelings that you get when you’re with each other as well as when you’re away from each other. Sometimes you really do just know when something is right to do. This is the one that usually tips the scales in favor of taking up residence together. You both just love the idea of going to sleep curled up together each night and waking up together every morning. There’s something to look forward to at the end of the day when you come home to each other. These are the biggest reasons for taking the relationship to the next level and moving in together.

Whatever reasons you may have for making this huge decision, if it’s the right one, you’ll both feel it from the very first night you spend together as co-renters. Not only that, but it will most likely be the beginning of a lifelong journey together.

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Sometimes You Just Have To Move On

 

Tuesdays article Sometimes You Just Have To Move On has some ideas about the ending of a relationship. Although it may be the end of your life toghether it is not the end of your own life. First and foremost there may be a chance to make up instead of break up when the smoke has settled. If not you will recover with help from supportive friends and relatives. Don´t just take all the blame on yourself for the breakup, remember it takes two to build a sustainable relationship with love and honesty. I hope todays article will help to heal your bleeding heart! I also urge you to take a look at the magic of making up which has helped over 50 000 people from 77 countries to get back together or to mend a broken heart.

Light&Love

Dick Scott

When the breakup of a relationship happens and you not only didn’t want it to happen, but you never saw it coming, you may spend a lot of time trying to figure out what went wrong. A huge part of this thinking is done because you want so much to have your ex back in your life. You want to fix things so that your relationship will be back on track and thriving again.

To begin with, trying to figure out what happened if you truly don’t know is a great way to start the healing process. It’s certainly an important one because you may absolutely have no idea what ended your relationship. You may have thought that everything was going along swimmingly and had no clue that there was anything out of whack. At least, you didn’t know until the day that your ex came to you and said he was leaving. Could you have really been so oblivious to any problems in the relationship that it was like being hit with a baseball bat that you never saw coming? It’s very possible for that to happen. In fact, it happens a lot and you shouldn’t feel badly if you fall into this category.

It’s important, though, that you learn to become more cognizant so that your next relationship doesn’t suffer the same consequences. If you were so caught up in such things as work or hobbies, you probably didn’t know that your partner was unhappy and feeling neglected. Of course, the smart thing would have been for him to approach you about this to see if it could be worked out. However, what probably happened is that he went searching for someone that was more willing to pay more attention to him than you were.

The next thing you may want to focus on is how to get him back. While it’s true that, in many instances, a relationship can be resurrected, it’s also true that many of them stay broken. If you’re positive that you want your ex back, there are things you can do to see if he will come back to you. On the other hand, if he’s already dating someone else, chances are slim that he’s going to return. In this case, the best thing you can do for yourself is to learn from your mistakes and don’t repeat them in the future.

Sometimes, it’s just better to move on with your life and not look back wishing and wondering what could have been. Once something has passed through your life and exited on the other side, it’s usually smart to simply take the knowledge the experience imparted to you and file it away so that you don’t make those same errors in the future. You’ll have time to figure out what’s really important to you and that’s going to help keep your next relationship intact. Deal with your pain, heal, and move forward. That’s the way to build a positive future relationship.

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