Fridays article Are You Sabotaging Your Own Love Life is unfortunatley true for some of us. I have myself been to long in a destructive relation which made me loose my will and power to choose a better life but thats history now and i have learned a lot from it. I think a lot has to do with us feeling our self-esteem and our value; when we truly feel that within ourselves, we wont stay in destructive relations to long or get involved with people that make us unhappy. Love is both the essence in life and our own true essence. Recognizing it in another being also let us recognize it in ourselves and vice versa which also bring feelings of gratitude over how beautiful life can be.
The paradox is that openness is the basis for love but it also make us more vulnerable for negativity. When someone close to you hurt you without forgivness you close your heart to avoid those painful feelings again and therefore also minimize your feelings of love. I think that as we grow wiser and stronger both as individuals and as humanity we will keep our hearts open and send love and light to every aspect of life which will transform darkness to light. Enjoy the article and take care of yourself and others.
So you think you want to be in a relationship, yet nothing you do seems to turn out that way. When this keeps happening and there’s no visible reason for it, you may want to consider that you’re ruining things all by yourself. There are various ways that this can be done without you even seeing it.
For one thing, you always pick the wrong guy. It may be that you have Bad Boy Syndrome, which keeps you from ever choosing the right man for you. Do the guys you date all seem to treat you like something they’ve scrapped from the bottom of their shoe, yet you still stay? It may be that you give all the power in a relationship to every guy you get involved with, which means he dictates how the relationship will go. Maybe you zero in on guys that aren’t emotionally available or they just won’t commit. While these guys may be exciting, unpredictable and phenomenal in bed, they’re not going to stay with you, and you actually know that from the onset.
Another way that you’re putting obstacles in your path to true love is by staying in bad relationships too long. These are the ones where you KNOW you need to leave because you’re not getting what you deserve from it. The sad thing is that you come up with all the excuses in the world as to why you’re staying in the relationship. You tell yourself that it will get better or that he’ll change. Love doesn’t justify being unhappy. Yes, love is very important, but you need other things to make a relationship successful. Things like respect, compatibility, honor and communication are just a few. When there’s real love in a relationship, all of the rest will be there as well.
One of the biggest ways to sabotage your relationships is when you base your decisions from a place of fear. Rather than doing something because it’s what you want, you do it because you feel you MUST. You’re afraid that if you do what your intuition is telling you to do that you won’t have the relationship and life you truly want. You understand that by confronting things that upset you or make you unhappy, then you may have to make some hard decisions. So you clam up instead of speaking up. The important questions are avoided because you’re not sure you want to know the truth. That’s why you bury your head in the sand rather than acknowledging all of the warning signs around you.
The most hindering aspect of your fear is that you’re actually the one that’s afraid to commit to someone. Granted, commitment can be a rather scary thing because, after all, you’re pledging yourself to one man for the rest of your life. That’s enough to scare anyone. However, the thing to remember is that when you find the man that offers you everything you want in a relationship, you’ll be more open to putting away the fear and opening yourself to commitment. And if you have trouble finding that man theres a man that offers you everything you need to for a happy relationship and he has made it avaliable on the following page where you can watch a video from him and read all about how to make up instead of break up and how to get your ex back. Click on the link below to discover more.
This is some of whats inside
Do they still care? Discover the TELL TALE clues your ex leaves that says you still have a special place in their heart…and I don’t care what they say… This is all you need to look for PERIOD! (Page 21)
Man had an affair? How to fight fire with fire. Inside this magic bag you will discover dirty tricks women use to steal a man. How to neutralize the power she has over him by understanding the ONE THING he craves more than sex, food or ball games. (Page 5)
Do you know the core reason why men leave women? …it is not beauty, sex, or a younger fresher face… I am SHOCKED most women can’t answer this question. Men desire this ONE thing more than any other…give it to them and they will be yours FOREVER.(Page 5)
What women crave the most… and if she doesn’t get it…it is only a matter of time before SHE WILL look for it somewhere else. You can get her back fast once you master this simple technique. (This is the #1 technique used by unscrupulous Don Juan’s use to steal married women.) (Page 6)
Are they with someone else now? Why this is not nearly as catastrophic as it first appears…and how to use the fact that 90% of rebound relationships never work out to your advantage. (Page 18)
Were you the one that had the affair? How to use the “clean slate” technique in conjunction with one other secret technique and come a looong way to forgiveness in the shortest amount of time. (Special Bonus Included)
When to apologize and when you shouldn’t. In the right circumstance just one good apology will land you back in their arms…other times an apology will blow up in your face and hurt your future chances. (Special Bonus Included)
The fastest and shortest path (bar none) back into their heart, mind and soul. This is so counter-intuitive it may never occur to you. (Page 33)
Wish you could start over? Take away hurtful things you said? Turn back time? Using a combination of the Clean Slate Method and “breaking the pattern” you can. Quickly and easily.
The Instant Reconnect Technique – I almost didn’t include this one because it may be too potent. It is “psychological judo” and will trick your ex lovers mind into thinking you are still together. This isSUBCONSCIOUS and there is no defense against it. (Page 43)
Exactly what to say and what to do to get your ex back on a date. Follow my instructions and it will be easy as pie because it will seem so natural. This has worked hundreds if not thousands of times. (Page 38)
The Bonding Secret so powerful that is partially responsible for the reason hostages sometimes bond with their kidnappers or oppressors (Stockholm Syndrome). This is relationship magic. It is undetectable, unnoticeable and 99.99% of the human population can not defend against it, let alone tell you how it is done. Like ANYTHING, this can be used for good or bad. Onceyou own The Magic Of Making Up you will possess the power to REBOND or BOND with anyone. Please useresponsibly!
Sex? When you should have sex during the reconciliation process. Both men and women get this completely wrong. Guys you will speed up the process immensely armed with this information. Ladies, most of you nearly destroy your chances because you sleep with him too soon. (Page 46-48)
What foods toy with your emotions and what foods help put you in balance. Putting your relationship back together is hard enough,make sure you are eating foods that will help you. (Page 26-28)
Decisions you should actually put off until you are back together. (Page 60)
How to use the Fast Forward Technique to overcome hang ups you may have with dieting, exercise, self esteem and other challenges that stem from negative feelings. (Page 14)
Recapture the romance you had when love your love was new. Impossible? Not once you learn the magic of Pattern Breaking and you stir in a dose of the techniques in Chapter 4.
Ladies if you follow the advice in Chapter 6, he will NOT be able to get you out of his mind – (It’s just the way men are wired.)- He will start CALLING YOU again and you will be shocked at the complete transformation he makes!
Afraid you will just start fighting again once your back together? How to diffuse arguments beforethey start. This isso simple and works so well you will swear it’s “magic”…and it only takes one person!
And a whole lot more…